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A Conversation with Brother Ardan on “Being an Effective Father”

06.21.23

“Being an Effective Father” is a subject that holds a lot of weight and importance in today’s society. Good fatherhood is a key contributor to happy and healthy children. As a brother, I recently had a fruitful conversation with my respected brother, on this topic and I am here today to share with you the unique insights we both gathered on the subject. 

To start off, he stressed the importance of fathers being approachable and patient with children. Often children feel the need to be distant from their fathers due to fear, but it is important that fathers give their children the space to express themselves and build a strong connection with them. He explained that engaging in conversations about topics of interest to both of you is an effective way to help build a relationship, create understanding and gain trust.




We then spoke about the value of consistency and fairness when dealing with child-rearing decisions. It’s essential to maintain consistent instructions and discipline so that children are clear about their boundaries and expectations from their dad. Dad should also strive to be fair when handing out punishments and rewards, such as allowance and other treatment privileges.

Another important aspect of being an effective father is being knowledgeable and engaged with what’s going on in their children’s lives. As dads, we have to make sure that we are informed about our children’s activities, goals, interests, and feelings. This allows us to be more helpful and supportive and is useful in avoiding potential problems in the future.

After discussing the more serious aspects of being an effective father, I was invited to discuss the fun side of being a great dad. We both agreed that it’s important to make time for your children. I mentioned to him that setting aside a specific amount of time each week to have playtime with your children is a great way to bond and create meaningful memories.

Finally, he stressed the importance of letting the children know that they are loved and accepted no matter what. Fathers and dads should strive to teach their children values, morality, and good behavior. It is also essential to open up to our children and show that we trust them and make them feel secure.

After a long and fruitful conversation, we both agreed that fatherhood is not an easy role, but with the right knowledge and tools, it can be a very rewarding journey. The key is to maintain consistency, be fair, display understanding, and keep the lines of communication open between fathers and their children.

I was deeply grateful to my colleagues for imparting such valuable knowledge to me, which really opened my eyes to the importance of being an effective father. I feel more empowered and reassured in my quest to be an exemplary father, knowing that I can rely on their advice in this venture.

Yesterday was indeed a lucky and blessed day. I will cherish my conversation with my esteemed colleagues about “being an effective father”, and I hope to pass this knowledge on to many others, in the same spirit.

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